The answer to most of the questions about human conflict lies in one word – HISTORY! The history of unkind (intended / unintended) words or glances can sometimes make one not-so-nice to people one loves. With strangers, there’s no past & perhaps no future, resultantly no conflict. I am fascinated by the concept of taking someone for granted. My younger sister yesterday evening pouted and scolded me in her cute endearing manner. I was feeling a bit out of sorts and wasn’t my usual self. She had just come back from the market after putting a not-so-big hole in Papa’s pocket and I wasn’t asking her questions with quick rapidity. She asked me vehemently if I was taking her for granted. I told her I was. It’s a soul-binding thing to be taken for granted. With strangers there’s no such compulsion or need or concession for that matter. Thus I think it’s essential that we use a simple technique, while judging a person – Give him/her the benefit of doubt. It will ensure that we constantly re-assess our interpretation of the situation. This will also ensure that we love the people we should truly love. Without the "history" of care & strife we haven’t really shared our lives – deeply and emotionally. But this does not obliterate the moments of anguish, there would be some, the idea is to ultimately go back home happy. Not only physically & literally, but spiritually & metaphorically.
May God grant us all good sense to check our irrational reactions before it is too late. Amen!
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